Why can't I have a considerate husband v.1

So we get back from Chico, arguing all the way. My purse is in the trunk. I ask him to open trunk while I am putting chickens away. Oops I forgot, trunk is open all night. But why can't he take my purse out since I am busy with chores? Or do I have to specifically tell him to pull it out? Do I have to keep track of everything?